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by: Kara Noel Lawson

Boy or Girl?

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It’s Labor Day!

But I’m not in labor…he he he!

I’m due in 15 days.

If the baby is as EARLY as Cy then we’ll have a baby in 3 days.

If the baby is as LATE as Cora Jane then we’ll have a baby in 24 days.

That’s quite a spread.

We found out the genders of our first 2 babies – a boy, then a girl! When it came time for the 3rd we opted for a surprise because we had everything we could possibly need for for both genders.  It was really fun socially to tell people we weren’t finding out and very practical because I wasn’t picking up unneeded baby clothes while out and about.

Come delivery day it was a such an exciting surprise for everyone (& me!) and a slight distraction from the tiring labor we had just gone through! But a day later, while I was packing up to leave the hospital I was folding the unused girl outfit (which was adorable) and I couldn’t help but be a little sad there wouldn’t be a baby girl to fill it. It was a little surreal because I was drunk with love for Cyrus but mourning the loss of a daughter that never existed.

Is that strange?

It’s not that I really wanted a daughter. It was quite the opposite – I thought (and still think) a son for baby #3 fit better with the dynamics our family.

Now it’s just about time for baby number 4 and our bags are all packed for the hospital, with each outfit lovingly bundled for it’s pending use. And I can’t help but think about the one that won’t ever be unpacked.

Blame hormones.

Or the fact that I don’t “feel done” with babies and someone else does.

Am I the only one who has felt that way?

Did you keep the gender a surprise for any of your babies?

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(Mondays I like to share something I got. We all like to share a good deal, splurge, unique find or fun activity. If you got something awesome (or lame) recently and blogged about it, be sure to leave me a link to the post in the comments!)

I got each of the coming home outfits at Sam’s Club for $4.51!! And coordinated all our coming home outfits to match. Can’t wait to share!

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  1. cendy says

    We didn’t find out with our 3rd either. So much fun! (We had a boy also) We are debating on having a 4th and if we do we won’t find out the gender again.
    I loved this blog post so much- I had the same exact feelings but only expressed them to my husband (Who did not understand at all!) When going through things afterwards I had the unused girl outfit and hubby told me I should use it for an upcoming baby shower gift. I couldn’t do it and was even a little upset at the idea. It was “hers” Seems silly unless you have felt it yourself I guess. I am SO glad that we had a boy. I was happy he was a boy the second I found out. When I was pregnant I wasn’t praying for a girl, or a boy for that matter, just a healthy little one. Which is why my feelings afterwards were so hard to explain! I am glad I am not alone on this one!
    Congrats on your upcoming arrival!!!

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    • Eli's Lids says

      I’m glad to hear I’m alone either!! I felt the same way – so happy for a boy and didn’t have a preference toward either gender. I wonder how I’m going to feel this time not finding out. I don’t think it helps much that I don’t feel done with babies and my hubby does. That will be a fun conversation.
      PS
      You should have a 4th!!

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  4. Carrie says

    I think not finding out is so much fun! We found out the first time (girl) and didn’t the second (boy). It drove everyone else WAY more crazy than it drove us. And give your hubby a little time- you both need that magical forgetful dust to sprinkle over you before you decide to be done having kids.
    SO excited to see your newest addition- I’m thinking girl!

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    • Eli's Lids says

      I loved all your comments!! Totally made me smile 🙂
      So awesome you have a Cy too!! Cyrus or Cyril? Or something totally different? AND so great you have a girl… she will be protected by all those brothers.
      We’ll have to pray for our hubby’s to change their hearts for more kiddos. I can see 2 more in my head… 😉

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  6. Dawn says

    Oh & I also don’t feel “done” even though my hubby does. He said no more kids 2 kids ago though too, so we’ll see;)

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  7. Dawn says

    We only found out with #3 (which by the way was a boy we named Cy!). What a surprise it was to welcome a baby girl last Christmas Eve after 3 boys:)

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  8. Lynne says

    I felt the same way a few months after having Ethan! I just knew he would be a boy, even though we didn’t find out, so I was expecting it and didn’t feel surprised at all. I didn’t care which we had first, because I wanted one of each. But a few months later, I found myself mourning the loss of the daughter I didn’t have… I gave my girl outfit away as a gift because it hurt a little to keep it. I’ve always wanted a daughter, and suddenly I was afraid I would never have one. I love Ethan and am so glad we had a boy first. And I feel so blessed to know this time around, we are having a girl. We won’t find out with the next one, because with one of each, I am content!

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